Your brand doesn’t talk into the void. It talks to ACTUAL PEOPLE.
And, if your tone doesn’t meet their energy and style, they’ll scroll past without a second thought.
This isn’t about copying their slang or forcing memes.
It’s about understanding how they naturally communicate. And ALIGNING with that.
Where to look:
- Comments on your own posts (and your competitors’- but with a grain of salt)
- Customer reviews and testimonials
- Community forums (Reddit, Discord, Slack groups)
- LinkedIn and Twitter replies
- DMs and email replies
- Podcast reviews or YouTube comments
- TikTok comment sections (a goldmine for unfiltered thoughts. It gets ruthless in there lol.)
What to notice:
- Are they casual or buttoned-up?
- Do they use emojis, slang, inside jokes?
- Are they ranting? Geeking out? Hyping each other up?
- Do they value expertise, humor, relatability?
Then adjust YOUR tone to meet them where they are:
- If they’re sharp and playful, be clever. Be fun.
- If they’re skeptical, be transparent. Not salesy.
- If they’re supportive and thoughtful, match that warmth. <3
This is how you go from TALKING AT your audience to TALKING WITH them.
That’s where trust begins.